Petty Arguments 🗣️

Why do the smallest arguments always feel like the biggest?

It's funny how the most trivial debates— whether the AC is too strong or whether someone actually said to take that left turn— can feel like battles of principle.

The kind that digs into everything unsaid for years.

Your partner, friend, or colleague suddenly becomes a lawyer. Exhibit A, B, and oh, there’s Exhibit C from that time in 2014. All to prove a point.

All because the coffee is too hot. Or, worse, not hot enough.

It’s silly. But it’s serious.

The coffee temperature isn’t just tea. It’s about being listened to. Being understood.

It’s about ‘Did you care enough to remember exactly how I like my coffee?’

And in the heat of it—pun fully intended— both sides get tangled in the idea that this small thing, right now, is everything.

Isn’t that part of being human?

We elevate the minor skirmishes because they’re part of something bigger. Tiny cracks of unmet expectations. Small victories that taste like validation.

And sometimes, the storm blows over as soon as it begins. With someone laughing.

The whole thing becomes absurd in retrospect. A reminder that life, at times, is made of these laughably pointless moments. The ones that define love in their own way.

The truth is, petty arguments are like practice.

It’s us, in the safest relationships, trying to express what we struggle to communicate directly. We’re not really arguing about the toast or the temperature. We’re asking, in a roundabout way, if we matter enough. If the details about us matter.

Because if you remember how I like my coffee, perhaps you remember all the things that really count.

When we win a petty argument, we don’t win a better breakfast. We win an inch of recognition. A teaspoon of reassurance.

It's petty, yes. But it’s part of something much bigger.

The little things become the weight that balances or tips the scale of our emotional bank accounts.

So next time you find yourself caught in the loop of 'no-you-said-yes-I-did,' think of it as a gentle nudge. An alert that something deeper is happening beneath that everyday argument.

In the end, whether we win or lose, the point isn’t who was right about the coffee temperature. It’s whether we leave enough room for each other to be heard. Even in the silliest of moments.

And honestly? Life's too short not to laugh over tongue burning coffee.